I have never considered myself a spiritual person. Having grown up in a family of East Coast academics, our solutions to life's problems were rooted in Western science-headaches were nursedВ with ibuprofen, and anxiety was tackledВ with good old-fashioned denial. Things like homeopathy, astrology, and even meditation were written off as pureВ make-believe.В
As I've gotten older, my mind has opened a bit. Though I still take holistic practices with a grain of salt, I appreciate the desire to care for one's mind and body in a more personal, less clinical way. It's hard for me wrap my head around someone truly believing that the planets control our destiny and that constructing a shrine of amethysts can cure insomnia. But I know from experienceВ that during moments of soul searching, sometimes you have to put logic aside.
That said, I know plenty of people who live by theseВ New AgeВ ideologies year-round. They fill their days with exotic herbs and visits to their local shamans; they dot their homes with crystals and bundles of sage. In Los Angeles, where I live, this is especially common. From Kate Hudson to the neighborhood yoga instructor, sometimes it seems like everyone in L.A. has an "alternative" spiritual practice.
Aesthetically, I'm as on board with this stuff as any Angeleno. I'm perfectly contentВ to pepper my home in rose quartz.В But realistically, I can't help but wonder: In their heart of hearts, do all of these modern Americans really believe in the power of spiritual healing? When they blame their IT mishapsВ and romantic troubles onВ Mercury's retrograde motion, is there truly no irony? After all, mostВ folksВ weren't raised with suchВ beliefs. Ultimately, my question isВ this: What draws Western people toВ spiritual healing?В
The other week, I felt like I mightВ finallyВ get my answer. My fellow editor Victoria and IВ received invitations to attend an all-female spiritual gatheringВ in Venice Beach on the eveningВ of the new moon. I knew instantly that I wanted to attend. I had noВ clue what to expect-would we be worshiping the planets? Resurrecting dead spirits? TakingВ ayahuasca? Whatever it was, I wanted in.
In reality, I could never have predicted what was to come.В To follow myВ surprising experienceВ at this mystical moon circle, keep reading.
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A little backstoryВ on this uniqueВ event:В Founded in 2014, these twice-monthly moon gatherings are held at theВ Venice home of founder andВ meditation guide Paula Mallis. "We were motivated to start them because we felt the need to create a supportive, safe, and loving space to gather with women,"В Mallis explains.В "In creating this sacred space, the circle provides a window of opportunityВ вЂ¦ to manifest your heartfelt dreams." (No mention ofВ ayahuasca, you'll notice, but you can never be too sure.)
Women from all ages and walks of life are welcome at these gatherings, which last two hours and cost $25 to attend. There are events on the evenings of both new and full moons. Victoria and I were slated to attend the former.В
Giddy with intrigue, we arrived at Mallis's home at 8 p.m. on a Thursday. It must be stated upfront: Her houseВ is gorgeous-minimalistic and tranquil, withВ an open floor plan, floor-to-ceilingВ glass windows, and zero extraneous dГ©cor. When weВ entered the space, we removed our shoes and receivedВ goodie bags containing "new moon circle" journals and bonus bottlesВ of "pregnancy mist" (which neither of us intendsВ to use for quite a few years but were happy to accept them nonetheless.)
Victoria and IВ tip-toed into the main room. There,В we were met with about 25 other women, all dressed in drapey fabrics and nibblingВ onВ complimentary chocolate. I will say, there exists a palpable calm inВ a room full of only women. Say what you will about spiritual "energy," but I am a firm believer in the uniqueВ atmosphere created by a group ofВ female-identifying people.В
Victoria and IВ took seats on fluffy floor cushions at the far end of the circle. As we waited to begin, a fellow attendee inВ paisley (a regular, we learned) passed out Ocean Jasper stones to everyone in the room-a token of gratitude for the successes she'd manifestedВ after months of dedication to the circle. I pocketed my new crystal, feeling both skeptical and optimistic.
Soon, Mallis and her co-facilitator, Danielle Beinstein, made their way to the head of the room. Dressed in head-to-toeВ ivory linen, Mallis was and svelte and imposing. Clad inВ unassuming black yoga garbВ and beachy waves, Beinstein was the yin to her yang.
At each new moonВ gathering, Mallis and Beinstein establish a topic of discussion, as well asВ questions toВ inspire thought and conversation among the group. To start, Mallis invited us to goВ around the circle and share a word or two to describe our intentions for the evening. Quickly I learned I wasn't the only spiritual newbie present.В I wasn't even the only skeptic. Plenty of attendees sharedВ that they were there to experience something out of the ordinary-to let down their guard andВ open their minds. This put me at ease, especially as Beinstein shiftedВ to the next stage of ourВ circle: summarizing the astrologicalВ state of the cosmos. Apparently, during our new moon, there were five planets in retrograde. According to the heavens, Beinstein said, thisВ was the perfect time to revisit existing projects and relationships in our lives.
Normally, this kind of thingВ would make me want toВ roll my eyes. But, in the spirit of of creating a safe and loving space, I suspended my disbelief. After all, these people didn't seem like total quacks. They seemed curious. Open.В Supportive. I figured thereВ had to be something to learn from them.@paulamallis
Inside a Private Spiritual Gathering
Coming intoВ this moon circle, I was prepared for moon-worshipping rituals and tribalВ psychedelics. But I was not prepared for what happened next. There weren't even drugs involved, but the activity that followedВ seemed to washВ my cynicismВ away like water.
After our astrological lesson, everyone in the circleВ was handed a sheetВ of paper with the following fourВ questions:
- What in your life requires time and effort to cultivate, maintain, and grow?
- Are you rushing the process or allowing it to develop over time?
- Can you re-evaluate the way in which you are relating to this process?
- In what ways can you continue to cultivate patience in your life?
After privately recording our answers, Mallis andВ Beinstein invitedВ attendees to share what they'd written, if they were moved to do so. I admit, I was expectingВ people to offerВ pithy, mystical platitudes. We were perfect strangers, after all. How concrete could the answers really get?
Surprisingly, myВ predictions couldn't be further from the truth. For the next half hour, the women around me proceeded to share deeply personal, honest stories from their lives. TheyВ voiced concernsВ as greatВ asВ deciding whether or not to leaveВ their 20-year careersВ and as small as not knowing how toВ redecorate their bedrooms. Everyone in theВ circleВ listened intently, but they didn't offer advice or solutions. That's not what the circle is about, I discovered. Unlike clinical therapy or medication, or even a dose of ayahuasca, the point of the circle is not to inspire an instant revelation. It's to establish the positive changesВ you wish forВ your life, state themВ aloud or simply to yourself, and allow that to quietly motivate your actions. No one in the circle claims to have the answers; they're merely there to bear witness.
Even the East Coast skeptic in me couldn't help but feel moved. Because, here's what I know: Women in the 21st century spendВ so much of theirВ lives trying to juggle obligations, please other people, and accomplish things instantaneously. In contrast,В the circle'sВ patience-driven approachВ felt like a breath of fresh air.В I realized that it didn't actually matter whetherВ everyone atВ the gatheringВ believed in its spiritual foundation or not.В As long as weВ believed in ourВ own personal reasons for being there, weВ belonged.В
Am I a New Age Convert?
TheВ remainder of the eveningВ was filled with a similar senseВ of repose and camaraderie. Next, Mallis encouraged the women who'd attendedВ gatherings in the past to share any manifestations, or goals they'd set, that had since come true. Mallis shared a successful manifestation of her own, as did the woman in paisley who'd passed out ourВ Jasper stones. It was refreshing to behold an opportunity for women to brag about their accomplishments. In the outside world, we so rarely get to do so.
Last, we all opened our moon journals and wrote downВ a series of intentions we hoped wouldВ manifest in the future. In closing, each of usВ went around the room and shared just one. Again, no feedback, no advice. Just peacefulВ smiles of support.
By the end of the gathering, Victoria and I agreed that this wouldn't be our last. We packed up our moon swagВ andВ bid our hosts farewell, our brains cloaked in a warm haze. I had shown up a cynicВ and left a sucker. And I wasn't even mad about it.В
So,В have I been converted to a life of New Age healing? Will I beВ replacing my ibuprofen with shamanicВ herbsВ and consulting my astrological chart every time my car runs out of gas? Truthfully, I can't say that I will.
But having stepped 3,000 miles outside my comfort zone, I have a newfound understandingВ of something that, my whole life, I thought was utter nonsense. It's a beautiful thing to watch people commit so fully to pursuing happiness, even if their methods weren't invented by a man in a lab coat.
Maybe it's naive to think of holistic healingВ this way. Or maybe it's a sign of growth. As of now, I have set my intentions toВ keep learning.В
Do you have a spiritual practice you swear by? Tell us all about itВ in the comments below!